One of the strange blessings you get when your heart is ripped wide open, is that now your heart is wide open. Like that first morning blink when the lights get turned on, at first it seems as if you won't be able to sustain this level of interaction with the world. Not only is the pain exquisite, but also the joy, love, and beauty. But the longer I have lived with my heart wide open, the more I have come to appreciate, and even thrive with, this level of interaction in the world.
Although I don't recommend this method of opening your heart, I do recommend always looking for the hidden blessings in the bad moments. We wouldn't choose to get our blessings that way, but, if you have the courage, you can find treasures to sustain you.
Wishing you all joyous holidays, full of love and beauty.